Aim For Happy Not Perfection

Hey ya’ll!

I have a question. When you’re trying to accomplish something, whether it be personal, work related or whatever… do you find yourself taking waaaay too much time finishing it?  Do you finally complete the task at hand only to see something just a little bit off and so you start tweaking at it trying to get it just right and in the process mess it up even more so you end up having to start all over again? URGGG!!

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Anyway, I know I do this at least once a day.  And usually it some small non important thing that turns me into some overly obsessed nut job,  ranting and raving at… opps… that’s just way too much info about me… more than I want to share right now dahlink’s.  But you get the gist.

But I will share what I’ve learned to do when I get this way.  When I get “this way” it’s usually because I am aiming for perfection.  Yes, I admit it. I can be a bit of a perfectionist at times.

When I find myself needlessly stressing out about something so small it that barely registers in the broad scheme of it all I have learned that it’s best to stop and walk away. Just walk away.   Breathe dammit!  Move on to something else, take a walk, have a drink of water or wine, or bourbon, etc… ok just kidding (or am I?)

Perfection is something that I find is never quite obtainable because it is such a moving target, especially if when we make the mistake of striving to be perfect for the benefit of someone other than ourselves.

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That’s used to be me being swallowed alive in a whirlpool of perfection!

I know that if I don’t stop and walk away from it there’s a strong possibility I’ll risk wasting precious time, energy and bits of my sanity manically searching the illusive goal of perfection.

I’ll find myself hours later not having completed anything I had intended for the day, and all because I got so sidetracked with trying to… I don’t know… trying to make the roll up blind in my bathroom window hang evenly.

In the past, for me perfection sometimes had its roots in what I felt would please others.  But trying to achieve perfection for the approval of someone other than myself is a detriment to my own self worth and not in alignment with living my best life. I’ve learned that instead of aiming for perfection my goal is to aim for what makes me happy.

Until Next Time Be well ~ ❤

Ellavate7!

Every Thought in Your Head is Not Your Own.

So today I posted a couple of videos on Instagram and Facebook about something that has been in my heart for a couple of days… and in doing so it got me thinking that maybe I’ll try my hand at posting a short video every Wednesday entitled, “Wellness Wednesdays”.

Anyway, my first video today is about our thoughts and how a lot of them are really not of our own making… not initially anyway… especially the negative thoughts we tend to replay over and over again in our heads that can become detrimental to our wellbeing if we allow them to take root.

If we are not careful we start to believe in all the negative things that we’ve heard about ourselves throughout our lives and those negative thoughts can very quickly become the your story we believe we are.

Hopefully in this day and age we all know that telling a child they are bad or evil when they act out or telling them they are stupid or useless when they make a mistake are terrible things to say to them.  Doing this causes a child to grow up with confusing images of themselves and low or no self esteem.

But we still do these things as adults to other adults.  We judge each other sometimes verbally and at times can be very cruel in our criticism for simply having an opposing point of view on a subject… and sometimes for even something as petty as a movie we might like, fashion sense or choice of hairstyle.

Well… Here’s the two part video. So… what are your thoughts? 😉