Is Our Obsession with Multi Tasking Ruining Our Creativity?

We live in a society where to do as much as we can in the shortest amount of time is glorified. To always appear busy is a sign of success… The person that professes to being super busy all of the time is looked upon as a go getter, they are in control and handling business.  They rarely go out to eat lunch but instead opp to sit at their desks (if they are fortunate to have a desk) and scarf down whatever they can, usually something unhealthy, in ten to fifteen minutes while they try to chisel through their ever growing mountain of assignments.

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On the other hand, society tends to look down on people who take a more laid back approach to life… Those who prefer to do one thing at a time.  People that like to take a determined amount of time to finish one task at a time instead of jumping back and forth from one thing to the next is at times seen as lacking ambition, not a hard worker and sometimes even lazy.

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Even our children’s schedules are so overbooked they seem to forget that some of the activities they are involved in are supposed to be fun.  School and learning new ideas and ways of thinking should be fun for children! But where’s the fun when a teacher (who is most likely being pressured to get as many subjects and test in as she/he can in a weeks time) is rushing every child along at the same pace? Most extra curricular activities like art, music and even outdoor recess has been taken out of schools or so limited that they may as well not exist.  The one size fits all approach to learning often places children who learn in a different way at risk of missing out.  Everyone shouldn’t be expected to learn at the same pace.

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Some employers, for what ever reasons, insist on adding more and more projects for their employees to be completed during work hours.  Before an employee can finish one task, three more are placed in front of them.  Depending on the workplace, (e.g. retail) sometimes these employees are dealing with coworkers and customers while trying to finish their own designated tasks… small wonder why people are physically and mentally stressed to the breaking point!  And business owners are left to wonder why moral is low, people call in sick and productivity is slacking off… REALLY?

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Of course you are not being paid to sit, doodle in a notepad and daydream on your employees dime! Employers have their own crazy deadlines and quotas to meet.  So what’s wrong with taking a break?  Most employees fear for their jobs and risk their emotional stability when made to feel they have to be “productive” at all costs and to never let anyone see them sitting down just doing “nothing”.

And at the end of the workday the multitasking mania continues. We risk our lives and the lives of others by talking or texting on our phones as we drive through traffic.  Underground we race through crowds on narrow platforms with our headphones on or earbuds in to jump on packed subways and run in front of cars trying to catch the bus before it speeds off.

We mindlessly and dangerously cross the street while reading some “Breaking News!’ on our cell phones and then stop to pick up dinner at the grocery store.  Still on our phones, we zigzag through each aisle throwing what’s ever quickest to prepare in our carts.  And finally make it to the checkout all the while still rudely having a loud conversation on our cell phone while searching our bags and pockets for our money or credit cards.

Finally… miraculously we make it home in one piece. We sit down in front of the television with our plates full of quickly prepared processed food, turn on Netflix, Hulu, YouTube etc… and check our Instagram and Facebook feeds and shop Amazon all at the same time.

But why is that… Why are we running around feeling the need to multitask even outside of work… trying to stuff even more into our already over stuffed lives?

We have gotten so caught up in our technological world, especially social media.  The need to know how many likes, friends, comments and photos we’ve gotten since that last ten minutes we checked is instant gratification… a quick but fake escapism from our overstretched reality.  With just one tap of a key,  click of a link or slide of a screen we are transported to yet another stressful dimension…  It’s stressful because it’s never enough. The likes,  followers and virtual friends just never come fast enough to satisfy our need for right now.

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Well, ironically… I say life is too damn short!  Enough already!

Of course we need jobs and we do need to be productive members of society.  The economy doesn’t work if everyone decides to stop and take vacation all at the same time…  Right?  We can’t all quit our jobs.  Last week when I went to the grocery store we were still using currency in this society.  And technology isn’t going anywhere either… I know this because I just read it on Google.

But there has got to be a balance. There has got to be time to just BE without fear of being looked upon as lazy, unproductive, unambitious slackers, irrelevant nobodies who are out of the loop, or just plain crazy.

We’ve got to find our own personal balance between our outside reality… the one that keeps our material world going and our other very true (and what I feel is our most important) reality.  Our internal creative reality is that part of us that longs to do the things we are meant to do opposed to those things we have to do to survive in this made up society.  We risk losing our creative selves when we focus too much of our time juggling the demands of what is outside of us.

“The science is unequivocal about multitasking: it’s bad for attention, memory, productivity, creativity, and happiness. We need to take matters into our own hands, and we can start by making small modifications in our day-to-day habits. Monotasking takes motivation, dedication, and continual practice, but the benefits are significant. Let’s reclaim our lives!”

– Nicola Brown, owner and principal of communication consultancy Think Forward Communication, and Editor-in-Chief at

You can read more of Nicola Brown’s very interesting article and tips how you can become less of a multitasker and more monotasker at the link above.

Until next time Be Well!


Banana Avocado Muffins

Just Sharing!


I just recently came back from vacation and for some reason my creative flow has been somewhat blocked.  Usually it just the opposite. So instead of writing nothing and not wanting to continue feeling guilty everyday that goes by without posting, I decided to share these delicious avocado and banana muffins I made a few months ago… let me rephrase… I don’t still have the muffins (Ewww) so I can’t actually share them with you but I will share the recipe.

If you’re like me you love a little sweet every now and then… (for me it’s more every now instead of every then… but don’t judge). Anyway,   I had a few over ripe bananas lying around and a ripe avocado.  I hate wasting food so I started looking for ways to use the two fruits together… yes… avocado is a fruit… a berry no less! Who knew?!

I used this recipe from for the base but made a few changes.  I was really surprised they came out so well… moist, not too sweet and not so bad for you either.

I cut the flour from 2 cups to 1 cup but added 1/2 cup of oats and 1/2 cup of rice flour.
I switched out the 1/2 cup milk for 1/2 cup almond milk and didn’t use as much sugar a little under a 3/4 cup of a mixture of white and brown sugar.
I also added 1 tsp of cinnamon and 1 tsp of ground ginger.  The recipe called for walnuts but I didn’t have any walnuts 🙂



I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment and let me know if you decide to make them and any changes you made.

Until then… Be Well!


Black Butterfly


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Black butterfly flutter on by on the streets of New York City

Collecting all that energy can be beautiful but sometimes your wings will get gritty

Just stay your course… Float with the breeze… Be true to who you are

And never be afraid to let the world know that you were born a star.






Art by Kelsey Montegue @kelseymontegueart


In Order To Hold On to Your Sanity In An Insane World…

Walk Away from the Edge.


It has been a rough few weeks. It seems everyday we are hit with one more thing that tempts to shake us off our course of ellevation.

Mass shootings, race based police brutality, children being separated from their parents, and yes… crazy ass presidential tweets and racist ideas that make fear and hatred; that were already on a slow simmer, come to a rolling boil.  This mixture of fear and hatred is overheating. It is threatening to blow the ill fitting lid off the scorched, dented and abused pot of democracy that has seen much better days.

Are the truths we hold really true… For all?  Do we still lift a lamp beside the golden door for the tired, the poor, the huddled masses yearning to breathe free? Or do we build walls so high that Lady Liberty’s bright and welcoming light is snuffed for a certain group that we find maybe just a little too tempest tossed and wretched for our taste?

It seems to not end.

We hear on the news of death by suicide.  Some of us look at others and think theirs lives glitter like gold. But the people whose lives we think are so much better than ours realize that all that glitters on the outside is not enough to hide the darkness and the pain they carry within. No one ever knows the true struggle of another and we damn sure will never learn the answers to why.  Even the note left behind could never reveal their true pain and hopelessness.  img_20180314_070744_4981153384702869099052.jpg

At times, standing too close to that fine line between our real personal reality and the chaotic reality of the outside world can make stepping across that line very tempting.  No matter how grounded we may be on Sunday,  Monday you may wake up, throw your feet over the side of the bed and find the floor has disappeared.

cropped-img_20180605_083316_837.jpgIn order to hold on to our sanity in an insane world we have to find ways of stepping away from the edge.

Finding ways to step away and decompress after being bombarded with so much hate, fear, sadness and confusion is not always easy.  And that’s not even mentioning the personal struggles we all go through on the daily just to “survive.”

Sometimes we feel torn and even guilty. We may have just gotten our own lives back on track or are still trying to find a light at the end of our own dark tunnel. We may want or feel we need to do something or maybe do more but we just don’t know what or how.  We risk becoming depressed and beginning our own downward spiral into hopelessness. But we must remember that we can only do so much to help to right some of the wrongs of the world. Remembering too that we must make sure of our own footing as we move forward.

Detachment is not a bad thing. Sometimes detaching ourselves from the outside world… stepping away from it all for a time could be what’s needed to focus on what we can do in our own way to bring about change.cropped-58902b7f0e4d1e0929c1046cc73bd396.jpg

When we feel ready and are confident of our own footing… when we have regained our inside quiet and have gotten the answers to how best we can help in whatever situation we feel a need to help in, only then can we move ahead knowing that our own well being is intact and not in jeopardy.


Until then be well<3


Happiness vs. Wholeness

A few weeks ago I was reading something that I’ve since forgotten about.  But thankfully that day I was aware enough of my bad memory to copy and paste a quote that jumped off the page at me so I wouldn’t forget about it entirely.

“Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much… I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “is this contributing to my wholeness? And if you’re having a bad day, it is.’ ~ Huge MacKay

If I remember correctly, the article had something to do with the fact that people are always looking to find happiness instead of seeking the value of wholeness;  however the way my memory has been lately I could be way off.  But this is what I’m making this entry about.

So before I lose my train of thought… again …

The more I know the more I realize the pursuit for happiness outside of self is such an illusory hope.

Though I’ve come to this realization, I am still human… I fall for the sucker punch from time to time.  At times I may have been at a low point in life and to make myself feel better I’ll see something sparkly that I think would make my life perfect only to find out later that I’ve sabotaged myself again.

I’d fallen for the shiny illusion of happiness again, only to find out that I’ve wasted my time, money and energy on some new snake oil and there I am back in Sabotage City again. Maybe that snake oil made me feel better in the moment, but it always wears off eventually.

Why are we constantly waiting for “Some Thing” to make us happy?  We wait for money… the perfect relationship… the right job… the dress we saw in the store… or that extra ten pounds we want to lose before we think we will be happy.

While in between those times real life is happening.

Those moments of self disappointment and frustration count.  They make us whole… if we let them.  We eventually learn what our triggers are.  And with practice we learn to catch ourselves before we fall; and even when we do fall, we learn that those moments are where we find out who we really are at our core.  Those times can actually strengthen our core… but again… only if we let them.

The stronger our core the more whole we become.

So when I run into these reminders from time to time, they give me pause.  These reminders make me evaluate my thought patterns or they make me  reinforce or focus on what my expectations are out of life… which by the way does not owe any of us a damn thing… Check please!

So… Is what you’re going through today contributing to your wholeness?

Stay Whole My Friend.



Robot For Sale

There is almost nothing better than starting my day with a good laugh. I just saw this joke and thought it was so funny I had to share.



A father buys a lie detector robot that slaps people when they lie.

He decides to test it out at dinner one night. The father asks his son what he did that afternoon.

The son says, “I did some schoolwork.”
The robot slaps the son.

The son says, “Ok, Ok. I was at a friend’s house watching movies.”

Dad asks, “What movie did you watch?”
Son says, “Toy Story.”

The robot slaps the son.
Son says, “Ok, Ok, we were watching porn.”

Dad says, “What? At your age I didn’t even know what porn was.”

The robot slaps the father.

Mom laughs and says, “Well, he certainly is your son.”

The robot slaps the mother.

Robot for sale.



A day without laughter is a day wasted ~ Charlie Chaplin


Style Search and Rescue

Being a woman whose coming up on her fifty eighth birthday at the end of the year (2018),  I’m feeling a need to reclaim my style and be more comfortable living in it.  That being said, lately I have been on a search and rescue mission to find my lost sense of style which for the past six or seven years has definitely been missing.  I have no idea where I misplaced it and honestly I haven’t been very confident without it.

For almost seven years my wardrobe consisted of the same drab and unmemorable items that were hanging in my closet.  And I paired this bland ensemble with whatever comfortable flat I could find before rushing out the door to the retail sales job (that I quit over a month ago) to get even more confidence sucked out of me.

If there was a psychological term to describe my look it would be labled to have Style Complacency Syndrome, or SCS. (That’s not a real disorder by the way so don’t Google it)

At the time I was very lethargic and lacked any feelings of self confidence.  And my style… in my opinion… brought me no joy or feeling of self confidence.  To be honest, my wardrobe was literally mimicking how I was feeling about life in general at the time. And I don’t know which came first, the bad wardrobe just not caring about my wardrobe.

I’m sure most of us would agree that if there is anything that conveys confidence it’s a women who’s comfortable with herself in every way, especially with how she looks.  And usually and most importantly,  it doesn’t really matter if what she’s wearing is trending at the moment or how much money she spent on it. She just radiates positivity.  I know that when I embrace my own sense of style it helps me to be more confident in other decisions I make.

When a woman puts together her look purely for her own enjoyment it produces a certain energy around her.  Her energy is a positive one.  She is her authentic self and she is fearless in how she projects her authenticity to the world.  She has her own voice and her own knowledge of who she is.  And while a sincere compliment is always nice… she needs no acknowledgment from anyone nor is she interested in anyone’s opinion of any of her choices, least of all what she wears.

That said, another thing I have been pondering is this idea that women of a certain age should dress for their age.  Do people still feel there are certain fashions that are off limits to women over the ages of 40,  50 and over… those of us in the more seasoned demographic?

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I recently read a short article on age as it relates to style:

Age Is More Than Just A Number When It Comes To Getting Dressed

By Amelia Diamond

“Within the last six or so years of working in an industry that revolves around clothes, I have noticed a considerable shifting away from”Age Rules” in fashion. Gone are the days of arbitrary parameters around what women must wear at 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80, 90, 100… (I could keep counting decades — the rules used to feel this specific.)”

Amelia Diamond, Head of Creative at Man Repeller

So what do you think…  Are you still of the opinion that a woman should “dress for her age?”

I for one live by the “to each his/her own” motto.  But even though I tend to feel this way about other people and their choice of dress, I admit there have been times when I may have questioned my own choices based on my age.  I had to ask to myself if the reason I sometimes second guessed my outfit of choice had to do with valuing others opinions more than my own. Why is that? It really bothered me because who wants to be that person?

And so, here I am, on my reconnaissance/search and rescue mission to find out what my true base style is and  then reclaim and embrace it while adding to it pieces that speak to who I am right now.  Oh… and not giving a damn what anyone else thinks about it!

Be Well ~ ❤