Happiness vs. Wholeness

A few weeks ago I was reading something that I’ve since forgotten about.  But thankfully that day I was aware enough of my bad memory to copy and paste a quote that jumped off the page at me so I wouldn’t forget about it entirely.

“Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much… I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.” Ask yourself, “is this contributing to my wholeness? And if you’re having a bad day, it is.’ ~ Huge MacKay

If I remember correctly, the article had something to do with the fact that people are always looking to find happiness instead of seeking the value of wholeness;  however the way my memory has been lately I could be way off.  But this is what I’m making this entry about.

So before I lose my train of thought… again …

The more I know the more I realize the pursuit for happiness outside of self is such an illusory hope.

Though I’ve come to this realization, I am still human… I fall for the sucker punch from time to time.  At times I may have been at a low point in life and to make myself feel better I’ll see something sparkly that I think would make my life perfect only to find out later that I’ve sabotaged myself again.

I’d fallen for the shiny illusion of happiness again, only to find out that I’ve wasted my time, money and energy on some new snake oil and there I am back in Sabotage City again. Maybe that snake oil made me feel better in the moment, but it always wears off eventually.

Why are we constantly waiting for “Some Thing” to make us happy?  We wait for money… the perfect relationship… the right job… the dress we saw in the store… or that extra ten pounds we want to lose before we think we will be happy.

While in between those times real life is happening.

Those moments of self disappointment and frustration count.  They make us whole… if we let them.  We eventually learn what our triggers are.  And with practice we learn to catch ourselves before we fall; and even when we do fall, we learn that those moments are where we find out who we really are at our core.  Those times can actually strengthen our core… but again… only if we let them.

The stronger our core the more whole we become.

So when I run into these reminders from time to time, they give me pause.  These reminders make me evaluate my thought patterns or they make me  reinforce or focus on what my expectations are out of life… which by the way does not owe any of us a damn thing… Check please!

So… Is what you’re going through today contributing to your wholeness?

Stay Whole My Friend.



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